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My Latest Obsession: The 100% Game Changing Book “Rest”

I am ABSOLUTELY obsessed with the book “Rest” that landed on my lap last week. I read most of it in a couple of hours and since have experienced being more productive and creative than I ever have before. And have had WAY more balance. Amazing!!

Please share this with friends, it’s a total game changer.

March 6, 2017   1 Comment

The Movement Toward Greater Authenticity & Purpose in Business

Is what once worked no longer working? Do you find it hard to do simple business activities you used to do easily before? Does the way you do business no longer feel right, as though something is off?

There is a major movement happening in the world right now. This movement is one that is toward purpose and authenticity.

At a deep level we are being called to let go of things that are no longer congruent. Ways of being, ways of doing things, ways of operating in business that don’t match your truest self are being called to be brought into alignment or dropped.

This isn’t an enjoyable process if you don’t realize what is really happening. It can look like the old ways of marketing or selling no longer creating the results they used to, sales may be dropping. It can create a lot of stress.

If this is happening for you then you’re not alone. It’s happening for a lot of people right now, at all levels of business.

We are being called to a greater expression of who we are and of our purpose.

Business models or systems that don’t allow the full expression of who we are will stop working or it will take an exhausting amount of effort to keep them going.

Systems that restrict your essence, your truth, your fullest expression of who we are must be updated and revised to be brought into alignment with our truth.

Right now more than ever is the time to delve into discovery. We are in a time of discovery, of exploration of what is true and congruent and what is not, of seeing the truth clearly.

It’s not a time of spontaneous major changes, there’s no need to take unnecessary risks. This cycle takes time to delve into. Give some space in your day to reflect.  Open to new possibilities even if you’re not yet sure what form they’ll take.

Begin now, open your mind for a moment and reflect on or write out: What still works well for me in my business? What feels good? What doesn’t feel good? What feels way off? What no longer feels tolerable? What part of me still longs to be expressed or given a place in my business?  What do I feel like I’m missing in my business?

Please share what resonates from this article and what you’ve noticed hasn’t been working as it used to, or what you feel called to incorporate more of to be more congruent in your business.  You’re not alone on this journey, many are in it. Humanity is in a cycle of completion and ending old patterns and ways of being that no longer serve. Benefits come when the truth is faced and we open our minds to what is congruent for us.

July 20, 2016   1 Comment

Is Doing What “Works” No Longer Working?

Young woman looking out the window

One of my gifts is hyper-awareness of the alignment with truth.  If someone is saying or doing something that doesn’t match the core of their being, I pick up on it quickly. It doesn’t matter if I just met the person, I can feel their congruence, this is my gift.

I see it in the business world all of the time. People doing what “works,” yet what works isn’t fully a match to who they truly are. I can feel the level of incongruence. Often they feel it too, they’re just doing what works, they’re told it’s the “right” way to do it to make money so they follow along.

It’s not coming from a bad place. Often the person just wants to do what they love rather than be stuck in an old career they don’t like. To finally have the peace of mind knowing that they finally made it, they’re succeeding in the work they’re called to do, they’re fulfilling the purpose that’s inside of them.

It all comes from a good place. It’s a step in the right direction, to stepping into greater purpose. Yet doing what “works” that isn’t fully congruent places a major limit on the person’s ability to realize their full potential.

The fullest expression of their purpose can’t happen when authenticity is diluted or squished in the process.

As of the time of writing this, I’ve just spent 7 months face-to-face with the cost of having done this myself. Only this time, what worked before no longer works.  This time, I couldn’t keep doing what didn’t match my insides.

I’ve known forever that I’m a creator of content. I’m a spiritual teacher and there is likely no limit to the new expressions I can bring to the world. It’s my passion to continually explore on my own journey of transformation and to share the transformational tools and principles that come out of this exploration.

There are probably a thousand business models I could use to be fully congruent and natural in my business. But I didn’t find them. Instead, I modeled those who create a program or series of programs once, then gear the entire business toward reaching more and more people to take them through those set programs.

While this is an ideal model for many, over time it kills my passion, my enthusiasm and the spark that drives my entire business. My natural gifts, passion, enthusiasm, sense of curiosity and wonder I have are, over time, completely suppressed using this model.

For 5 years I’ve tried to squish myself into this box that I didn’t fit in. I tried to “get excited” about teaching the same content. I would try to find new twists on the old content so I could somehow draw out some enthusiasm from inside of me. Once in a while, I would create a new program and those were the best times (which by the way also created the best results… on this journey I’ve learned that sales are directly proportionate to passion).  Yet now I can see it’s no longer sustainable.

The ridiculous thing about all of this is, I am a naturally enthusiastic person. I don’t need to work to find enthusiasm, it is my natural state. Which I knew all along, but kept going with what sort of “worked”. Worked to help me create a multi-6-figure business that has helped a lot of people.

Yet what I contemplate is this. If I can create these results and transformation in the world without all of my full self and full passion engaged, what could I create if I had my natural enthusiasm and passion fueling me? And what transformation could I create in the world if I shared all I had inside, not just a small portion of it?

Business models aren’t wrong. The business world isn’t wrong. There is not an absolute “right” or “wrong” way to do business. Yet there is a right or wrong way to do business for you.

Doing what “works” must not only mean doing what creates the results. Doing what “works” must evolve to become doing what allows us to be fully expressed as we create the results.

We don’t need to lose ourselves to succeed.

There’s a deeper reason I did this. I’ve been focusing on healing the deeper reasons for it for about 4 years now. I guess that’s why I’m finally facing this and am no longer able to keep going as I was.  Doing what “works” without doing what works for me, for my soul, for my insides, is no longer tolerable.

I’m turning a corner. I’m turning toward living into and expressing my full potential. As risky as it feels, I’m doing what’s right for me. Which I know deep in my bones is what’s right for the world, for all those who are meant to be touched and transformed by the messages that have been stuck inside of me, unable to get out.

Take a moment to reflect for yourself. What have you been doing that “works” yet isn’t fully in alignment with who you are? What doesn’t quite feel good to you? What might feel better? What feels missing for you?

I’d love to hear what resonates, feel free to comment below.  Feel free to share this article, this is a major challenge so many are facing, they don’t have to face it alone.

July 14, 2016   6 Comments

Have you put yourself in a box?

BoxI have recently been exploring the ways I’ve put myself into a box in my business. I put myself into a box for very logical, practical reasons.  This box has a lot of wonderful things in it, awesome clients, lots of money, recognition, opportunities. Yet this box has neglected one very important part of who I am at my core, the most important fuel that exists, my passion.

I am doing the work I am passionate about. I left behind my old career to have more passion. Yet the way I’ve set it up has left parts of me longing to be expressed, sitting in the background completely bored.

There’s a risk in changing what is working, yet there’s a huge risk in ignoring this part of me that is so important.  The risk of sabotage in the future gets greater the longer I ignore it.

I’ve already made a commitment to myself, to reshape what I’m doing so my passion is present as fully as possible within the current structure.  Yet I am completely open to a new way of doing things, to a new way of working that serves the most fully and allows me to give all I’ve got.

I was recently at a JV retreat with 120 industry leaders.  I learned I’m not the only one who has been doing what has worked and experiencing a cost. And feeling uncertainty as we open to the new we can’t see yet… [Read more →]

December 18, 2014   1 Comment

3 Abundance Lessons from Nature

HydrangeasI’ve been spending a lot of time outside lately, now that it’s nice out.  This time, I’m not walking to get from point A to point B and back or to give my dog Gina exercise.  I’ve been following the natural impulse I had to get outside.  I’ve slowed down, I’ve been present as I walk or sit out in nature.

And today I noticed something powerful as I lay down on a bench to look at the sky.  I saw big trees in the distance.  And I felt a deep connection to nature in that moment.  Along with a powerful realization:

Trees just are.  There’s no trying to be better than, more than or different than who they are.  A tree knows it’s a tree and doesn’t try to pretend it’s a bird.

In nature there is total acceptance of what is.  No pretending, no striving.

Yet in nature there is nothing but endless abundance.  Everywhere you look.

Maybe nature has some secrets we can learn from…

For years I’ve always believed that our purpose is to be who we are.  And that any filter or mask that aims to please or gain approval is something the Universe will eventually guide you to drop.  Because being you is what the world needs.

You have a unique purpose that is only carried out by being exactly who you are. 

And just like a tree, its entire potential of who it could become was held within the seed it started out as.  To resist allowing the full YOU to be expressed in your life and business is like trying to make a tree become a flower.  It just doesn’t work.

The degree to which you compromise who you are to succeed is the degree to which you will feel unsatisfied with the success you create.

If you can even create it.  It’s very tiring trying to be anything but who you are.  The mask of approval is far too heavy.

I’ve seen 3 ways many people lose themselves in their business, stopping the abundance their true nature has for them:

1. They try to solve all of the problems of their clients

I’ve been seeing this over and over lately.  If you have a unique purpose then doing anything for your clients that is not your purpose is simply going to leave you drained and exhausted.

Not to mention, since it’s not your purpose to be all things to all people, you’re forgetting something important:

You really aren’t good at what’s not your purpose

That means two things.  One, the results your clients create from working with you aren’t as powerful as they could be.  Two, it feels like you’re never quite “enough” no matter how much you give which just leads to feeling deflated.

If you stick with what you KNOW you’re here to do, creating the transformation you know you’re here to create in your clients’ lives, you are in accordance with your nature and you create profound results for your clients.

Know the piece you bring to your clients and let them know what it is.  And if they need another piece you can let them know that too.

2. They catch “mentor-itis”

This infection is so sneaky and damaging that my friend Karen Evelyn and I gave it a name.

Mentor-itis.

Mentor-itis is what happens when you try to be something you’re not because a mentor tells you to.  Or maybe you just try to “please” the mentor, to be a good student and willingly become “pleasing” instead of you.

I’ve repeatedly had mentor-itis in my business.  And had to recover from it each time.

The truth is, only YOU know what you bring to the world.  Only YOU know what feels right to you in your business.  Only you can say things the way you’re meant to and your ideal clients need to hear.

Yes, I am a huge fan of having a mentor, one that resonates with you.  They save you time and help you succeed faster.  I believe they are necessary and have had many in the past.

Yet you can’t throw away the YOU in your business because a mentor says you should.  You also don’t want to be more than you are or do work for your clients that’s not you because a mentor says it’s a good idea.  You will lose motivation and it will be WAY more effort.  Success becomes hard because you don’t even really want to do the work.

3. They don’t realize the deeper blocks to allowing their true nature

If just being who you are was easy, I think most people would just do it.  They wouldn’t struggle with it.

I am an intuitive, I am a healer.  I do some different work in the world.  Very different work in the world of business.

Yet where did I start out?  As a Mechanical Engineer.

If being me was so easy, I would have just delved into the world of the intuitive right off the bat.  But I didn’t.  I hid who I really was with all I could.  I hid it so well I didn’t even know who I really was inside.

And even when I started to pursue my intuitive gifts and share them through a business I still was trying to hide,  playing small and not feeling safe enough to share my gifts in a bigger way.

When I finally began to pinpoint the deeper energetic blocks in my way and healing them using the Intuitive Healing Process, I finally felt safe being me in my business.

I could breathe easier, I could be myself more and my work became more enjoyable.  Not only that, I was being me more fully and my sales more than tripled in 5 months.

You are meant to live according to your nature.  Your nature is your gift.  And uncovering your true nature and operating your business according to your true nature is the most prosperous gift you can give yourself and the world.

Many people have no clue what deep energetic blocks are stopping them from feeling safe being who they are and sharing their true selves through their business.

Yet it costs so much in time, energy and lack of motivation.

I’d love to assist you in finding out what energetic blocks are in the way of allowing the full you to be expressed in your business.  To fulfilling your purpose more fully and joyfully.  Making it way easier to make the money you’re meant to.

Right now we’ve opened up 15 spaces for Intuitive Business Assessments, they’re going to go fast, click below to apply for your Intuitive Business Assessment:

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On this call myself or my trained Intuitive Business Consultant Sandra will assist you in pinpointing exactly what’s in the way.  Most people feel relieved at the new clarity and inspired.

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April 24, 2013   No Comments

3 New Energetic Challenges To Step Up to in 2013

Now more than ever, there are new energies coming in to support our growth and evolution at a rapid pace.  It is an amazing energy that can draw you into the highest and greatest experiences in life.  Yet, it’s not always a walk in the park.  I’d love to share with you a few tips to understand and handle this new energy that’s here that has a huge impact in your business.

The energy we are in, more than any other time in history, is the energy of “Illumination”. 

Doesn’t that sound all rosy and nice…  Illumination.  Bright, shiny, glowing, radiant, enlightening – Illumination.

Illumination can be a wonderful thing, but there’s another side to illumination you may not be as aware of.  One I first became aware of after beginning to read Kryon channels years ago by Lee Carroll (a man who channels and was invited repeatedly to channel at the UN www.kryon.com).

The challenge with Illumination is that it means the light is being turned on.  Not just in the nice, beautiful places you’re so used to.  The light is also shining into those really dark places you’ve wanted to ignore your whole life.  All those things you’ve swept under the carpet are now visible and getting attention.

When the light turns on, it illuminates the dark places.  And it’s often not a pretty sight.  I believe that’s what we’re seeing in the world today.  The dark is being exposed.

So what the heck does this have to do with your business?

Everything.

Light demands integrity, clarity, truth.  It calls any darkness out to be dealt with.  This creates many challenges in business to be faced and dealt with.

Here are 3 ways this new energy may show up in your business:

1) Motivation

Have you felt a loss of motivation lately?  The old motivators not quite doing it for you anymore?  Perhaps money or recognition drove you in the past and now it simply doesn’t drive you like it used to.  Perhaps being motivated to succeed to “prove” you’re worthy or capable of success just doesn’t work either.

In this new energy, results created from old motivators fall flat or just don’t happen like they used to.

We are being called to move to a deeper, more sustainable fuel source.  The fuel of your natural essence, your Divine nature.  This can only be accessed when the old motivators and the reasons for their existence fall away.  We are being called to live from the core truth of who we are rather than the old programming of the past.

2) Lack of Clarity

Sometimes in the new energy you can end up in a state of confusion or lack of clarity.  This is often a great sign that rewiring is happening internally.

This often happens to bring about a deeper energy of truth from within you to be expressed in your business.  I truly believe that your purpose in your business is to be as fully YOU as possible.

Often times of confusion or lack of clarity is here to help you do just that.  What no longer excites you? What could you let go of or adjust so it feels like YOU?  Embrace the gift of confusion as a way to take you higher, to greater fulfillment, passion and money.

3) Facing the Truth

The days of ignoring your intuition, of ignoring what doesn’t feel right inside and powering through are winding down.  We are moving into a time of Truth, of Realness.

It is a time of facing the truth, which may not always be pleasant but is necessary.

Facing the truth of your feelings about many things in your business may sometimes feel scary, yet how can you create a business that feels thoroughly good if you don’t face the fact that some aspects of your business don’t feel good?

I’m a big believer in the Law of Attraction, it’s important, yet what is also becoming more and more important is HONOURING yourself.  Denial is an energy we are being called to let go of.

In this new energy, ignoring the truth might work for a while, but don’t be surprised if something happens to shake things up and make you face it eventually anyway.

The promise of facing the truth is being able to create TRUE happiness, creating success that is truly fulfilling, creating your business match your true nature.

What truth have you been avoiding facing in your business?  What about your business or the way you operate in it doesn’t feel good anymore?

Just because you face the truth doesn’t mean you have to change anything.  Honour yourself by facing the truth and opening the door to what can be.

Resonate with any of these challenges? I’d love to hear about it, share your comments below!

Did you know there could be major energies within you that make it harder to succeed during this powerful time we’re in? 

Join me to find out more during the upcoming teleseminar:

“Revealed: 3 Secret Energies That Sabotage Sales & Keep Holistic Practitioners Struggling For WAY too long At 4 or 5-Figures!”

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January 9, 2013   No Comments

You Are a Light in the Dark for Your Clients

Have you ever been having a big, painful challenge in your life and you realized you had no idea how to get out of it?  And in that moment you asked the Universe to help you, you surrendered.

Then you hear a line on TV that comforts you, read an article online that opens up your mind, or maybe a person comes along who can help you with the challenge you’re having.

Did you know it’s the same for your clients?

Your clients are right now in the very same pain that you can help them heal. They are in a pain that you have been in and gotten out of, maybe not too long ago.

And if you’re clear and ready, the Universe will be guiding them to YOU.

And your job is to shine the bright, clear light that is YOU, so the people who are lost at sea in the dark, surrounded by crashing waves can find their way to shore.

That’s the power of authenticity, when you are clear on what the light is that you are here to shine, when you are clear on what the challenges are of those you are here to help it becomes so much easier for your people to find you.

Here are 3 tips on clarifying your purpose so you can more specifically target those you are meant to help so they can find you:

1. Your clients are in a pain you can help heal

You are here to create transformation in the lives of your clients.  While it may seem difficult to narrow down exactly what that is, I find that the more clearly you can identify what that specific challenge is, the more exciting it gets.

One of the biggest motivators for myself and my Platinum Clients is that we KNOW what the pain of my ideal clients are.

How do I know?

I was in that very same pain for 3 and a half years not too long ago.  Struggling in my business and not knowing why.

Once you identify EXACTLY what that is, it’s like your passion doesn’t go away, you can’t turn it off. Because you know your people are in pain and that you have what it takes to help them out of it.  This energy propels you forward in your business.

2.  It is possible you have been in the very same pain they are in

I am SO passionate about helping my clients because I’ve been there and I’ve found the way out.  It may be the same for you.

Look back in your history, in your story and see what challenges you have overcome that really made a difference in your life.  And imagine your ideal clients are in that same pain you were maybe a few years ago.

With what you know right now can you see how you could help them immensely?

And here’s the other thing you need to know I see SO many people get stuck one.

3.  You don’t have to be perfect

Here’s the thing.  I find it very difficult to help those just beginning their spiritual path.  My clients most often have been on a spiritual path for a long time so I can go deep into what we need to look at without having to focus on teaching the basics like the Law of Attraction.  When it was new to me I LOVED teaching it!  And I was way better at teaching it because it was new to me.

You are often best at teaching what you have just gotten through yourself.  Many times I am sharing with a client something I just learned or realized recently.  I teach what I learn and often it’s not too long before I teach it.  That’s how I work best!

Your clients aren’t looking to find someone who is perfect with all of the answers.  People can’t relate to someone like that anyway. But if you know how to help them get out of the pain they’re in then that’s what they care about.  Drop the idea of getting to perfection because you’re missing the target.  Remember that your clients are in a pain YOU can help them get out of, who cares about perfection when you’re in pain!

Want help finding out WHO your people are and what your transformation is?

In the Freedom to Shine Program, you’ll not only find out exactly what it is but you’ll be supported to uncover the major dynamics in the way of you being able to transform the reality in your business.  From stuck, possibly making hundreds a month to being the person who is almost unstoppable able to make thousands a month.

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February 2, 2011   No Comments

Revealing the Beauty Within

2008 Fia Crandall

Fear. Doubt. Not believing we deserve good things. Feeling less than others. Feeling not good enough. Shrinking down. Hiding our true self.

This is so normal in our society. To experience any or all of these on some level. It is actually more normal than the expression of the beauty and magnificence that we are all inside.

On some level we feel it is safer to shrink down. It is safer to hide our light, our beauty, to hide what makes us unique.

I know this all too well, in fact my biggest fear growing up was any form of creative self-expression. For others to see who I really was. The fear of being judged and not accepted. I even chose an “acceptable”, not so creative or expressive career because of this fear.

A major part of my journey from my old “safe” career to doing the work I love here has been to release all of this fear, pain, doubt, shrinking down. To drop it and to just allow my true light to shine. Your talents come naturally, when they are not blocked by your fear and lower thoughts and energies.

So when you think of who you really are inside, maybe you don’t see the beauty now, maybe you just feel the fear as I did before. When you feel this, know that it is natural and normal. It’s all part of our journey here in this life.

And to choose to discover and reveal this beauty is to choose to grow beyond these restrictions. To choose to be the beauty that secretly you know you are inside. To allow this beauty to be discovered, to allow what is blocking it to be dropped is what leads us down a path of immense growth and of ever-expanding joy and energy.

Just as fear is a restriction, revealing your true self, your true beauty is such a wonderful expansion. As you let this beauty be revealed you are revealing more of your Divinity. You are allowing your unique light to shine through into this life, into this world.

Maybe you’re not ready to let yourself shine fully to the world. But maybe that true self is ready to start to be revealed. Maybe it’s time. Maybe it’s time to choose expansion over shrinking down. To choose life over dullness. To choose growth over stagnation. To choose to discover and reveal the beauty that you are rather than to hide it even from yourself.

The Universe is here to support you in this journey. Your job is to choose it. Even just to choose more. To stop settling for being less, for feeling less, for experiencing less than what you know is possible for you.

So today, ask yourself, are you ready to choose more? Are you ready to take your life to a new level?

Maybe it’s time.

You may not know how and that’s normal. But the Universe is here to support you more than you know. If you choose to go higher, if you choose to discover your true beauty, if you choose to reveal it, you will begin a journey that is more fulfilling than anything I’ve ever experienced. To be who you knew you always were deep down is to truly know a freedom and joy like no other.

July 18, 2010   No Comments

You Are Meant to Do It Your Way

2009 Fia Crandall

Do you ever get the feeling that you are being squished into something that you’re not? Like you really are a square peg trying to force yourself into a round hole but it’s not really working and you’re getting tired of it?

I want to share with you something I found to be very powerful that I hope changes your views on yourself and how you are designed.

When I was in my old nine to five job I had always felt this resistance to the fact that I had to be there for those eight hours, no matter what.  There was even a point in my career where there was absolutely no work for us to do and we STILL had to come in for those eight hours.  It always bugged me.

Now at first I just thought it was because I wanted a dream life where I could make my own schedule and wake up when I wanted and end my days when I wanted.  Now this is partly true but recently I realized something big.

I am not a nine to five person.  I actually found out that my energy runs differently than what is expected when you show up for your eight hour shifts.  I actually work in bursts of energy where I have this insane efficiency and get massive work done in a very short time.  And I also have plenty of time where I really don’t do that much at all.

I thought I was lazy or something.  But looking at it now, this is really just my natural rhythm.  I rest and become more receptive for a time then when it’s time to take action I have full and intense energy that takes me ahead by leaps and bounds.  But it’s a rhythm that I need to operate in to be the most efficient.

I used to think I was a crammer in University.  I wouldn’t study until almost the day before for most exams.  And it worked.  I thought I was doing it wrong but recently I realized that no, I wasn’t doing it wrong, I just needed that downtime before the burst of energy that was sure to come along to help me do what I needed to do very efficiently.

So what does this have to do with you?

You have a way that is YOU. It is natural to you, it makes sense and it is not a bad thing.  In fact, I truly believe that the work that you are uniquely designed for must be done YOUR WAY by you.

I resisted the nine to five not just because I wanted freedom.  Yes I did want freedom, but it is more than that, I am actually designed to work in a certain way that allows me to do what I came here to do in the most effective and powerful way.

I need lots of down time now so I can bring through the inspiration that I’m meant to share with those I’m meant to serve.  And because I allow this I bring through what is SO connected with those I’m here to serve, I hear about it all the time.

And my life is set up to match Who I Am. I stopped trying to fit myself into that round hole and instead I created (or stepped into) my place in the world that is exactly designed for me.  I am free, because for me to be free means I can serve those I’m meant to serve in the highest way a way that feels wonderful and natural to me.

Can you begin to embrace the idea that your resistance you feel to certain things is actually telling you that you are meant to approach things in a different way?

That maybe you’re not being selfish for wanting to do things differently, that maybe it actually allows you to Be Who You Came Here to Be in the fullest, most meaningful way?

Activating Your Authentic Way

Allow yourself to get quiet for a moment.  Imagine an ocean wave of light washes over you and takes away any tension, thoughts and stresses.  Just let it go.

Now ask to be shown what resistance is showing up in your life that is actually showing you an opportunity to discover your way.

And once you receive this, ask: what is my way here?

And to allow this way to more gently come into reality ask: how can I embrace my authentic way within the exact same outer situation?

Even when I was in my nine to five I allowed myself to work my way.  I got together my to do list for the day and didn’t act until I felt like it.  I’d start with the task with the most energy and most of the time while I was doing that I’d run into people I needed to talk to in order to take care of my other tasks on my list.

So start now, wherever you are, to embrace your way.

And I’d like to also spark within you the idea that your entire life not only can be your way but is meant to be your way.

June 28, 2010   No Comments

Stop Looking For Outside Validation of Your Worth!

2008 Fia Crandall

Do you feel like the results you create in your life are a reflection of your worth and value? Do you feel let down when things don’t turn out as good as you had intended?

Looking for outside validation of your worth is a sure way to keep you stuck in feeling unworthy. When you connect your value to anything outside of yourself you set yourself up for disappointment.

The thing is, you ARE worthy and it has nothing to do with what outer results you create. And I also have come to see that your outer results increase the more that your belief in yourself and your worth increases.

I have seen that people who don’t feel worthy to begin with tend to see things in a distorted way. They rarely see the success they do create, even in the face of great success. And they are so quick to point out what they didn’t do rather than the success they have created. It’s just the natural way because they are driven by an unconscious unworthiness. And when you are driven by unworthiness you can’t help but to look for evidence of it.

I know this all too well myself. This has been a great challenge for me as well. I realized that when you feel unworthy deep down, you set your expectations and goals almost impossibly high. You actually set yourself up for failure without realizing.

Then even if you create great success, it’s no comparison to what you wanted. In one year I had increased my sales by 322%. That’s a massive success! But at the end of that year I still felt like a failure because I didn’t make my huge goal.

Can you see how ridiculous this is?

Do you see how you might be doing this?

You need massive proof of your worth when you feel unworthy, that’s why you set your sights so high.  And when you are driven unconsciously from a place of unworthiness, it is almost impossible to create those incredible results you want.

When you feel worthy, you disconnect from the outer results and celebrate ALL of your successes, because you see clearly without a distorted filter.

The one thing the Law of Attraction does is help you go for the best, to envision something truly amazing for yourself, that really is a major stretch. And this is a good thing. But you can’t tie your worth to whether or not it happens as fast as you’d like or whether it happens or not.

If you really want big results, you have to go big, I’m all for that. But don’t measure your value based on what you create. Make a choice to see ANY forward movement as progress that is worthy of being celebrated.

If you want to break out of this disappointment and unworthiness dilemma, you need to reverse the process.

If you want good results, you must detach from the outer results.

You must see your results as separate from you. Sure they are a reflection of you but if you attract limited results it has more to do with how you see yourself than your actual worth.

Which brings you to the second step to shifting this, you must shift your self-view if you are ever going to attract anywhere near the results that you want. Rather than watching for evidence of whether or not you are worthy, begin noticing and collecting evidence of your worth right now.

One way I did this was to start writing out self-appreciation in my gratitude journal. I just made myself list the things that I appreciated about myself. And when I looked at myself from this viewpoint I could finally see clearly…

I HAD created a lot, I did have a lot of successes worth celebrating, even if I hadn’t made that impossibly high goal. I was giving myself what I needed, I was stepping up for myself and my most amazing life. I was committed. I was authentic.  And I really HAD created a lot of what I did want.  The evidence was all around me.

And through this I started seeing my true value and worth. It was not just shown in what I created, it was shown through who I was and how I was showing up in my life.

Break the connection between your outer results and your worth. Embrace your worth NOW, see the good, see the progress, see what is right. And you can’t help but to create better results, because you will finally be coming from a place of worthiness and you won’t need to validate yourself by results.  And your results can finally soar.

June 18, 2010   No Comments