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3 Damaging Effects of Non-Ideal Clients

You know who they are… the clients you don’t really enjoy working with, the clients that drain you rather than light you up.  Clients you work with perhaps just because they pay you, not because you actually enjoy working with them.  These clients are NON-IDEAL clients and if you’ve got them in your business it may be costing you more than you think.

I’ve seen non-ideal clients impacting the lives of my clients in major ways, often without them even realizing what is happening.  I’m excited to share what I’ve learned with you so you can do what it takes to AVOID non-ideal clients and the damaging effects of working with them.

Let’s start out with a basic truth from a spiritual perspective:

Non-ideal clients are people that you are NOT meant to work with.

It is not your purpose to work with non-ideal clients.  They would actually be helped much MORE by working with someone else, perhaps someone with different skills, ways of expressing themselves or perhaps just a different mindset.  This does not mean there is anything wrong with you!  It just means there is someone who is better suited for them.  And it’s for your highest good and theirs to let them go so they can find the person who IS meant to help them.

The 3 damaging effects of working with non-ideal clients are:

1. They Drain Your Energy

Working with a non-ideal client is EXHAUSTING!  It’s draining to work with someone you’re not meant to work with.  Often non-ideal clients are people you don’t really like that much, and even if you do like them, it likely CONSUMES your energy to work with them.

Working with ideal clients energizes you!  That’s how it’s meant to be.  So you can keep the fuel going to make an even bigger difference in the world!

2. Doubt Your Worth and Pricing

Your gifts, your message and your healing are PRICELESS to your ideal clients

This is because you are EXACTLY what they need.

But here’s the thing…

The same, incredible priceless gifts, message and healing you offer to your non-ideal clients does not have the same value because it often does not create the same results.  Remember this has nothing to do with your value and pricing, it’s simply because they are not meant to work with you.  To your non-ideal client your services are not priceless and often you and the non-ideal client can leave the session questioning if what you’re doing is of value to them.

Sound familiar?

So then you go off questioning your value, maybe questioning your pricing.  Yet the problem is NOT your value… it’s that you’re working with a non-ideal client! 

3. Question Your Purpose

When you see that your non-ideal clients are just not getting very good results, a common reaction is to take this questioning of their value one step further.  And this is the most critical, most damaging effect of non-ideal clients…

They cause you to question whether you should even be doing this work.  “Maybe this isn’t the work I’m meant to be doing…”

You begin questioning your purpose.  You can have 10 clients getting amazing results that are truly priceless, you can be transforming the lives of these ideal clients in the most profound ways, just one non-ideal client can send you questioning your purpose.

Here’s the thing about questioning your purpose that makes it so damaging…

When you question your purpose you don’t move forward. 

You’re stalled.  You’re likely not feeling confident, getting your work out to as many people as you can.  And when you’re not moving forward, all of those IDEAL clients who are MEANT to work with you are waiting.

Everybody misses out!  You need FAITH to succeed and to continue reaching more and more people, you need to KNOW that the work you do is truly priceless, and you need all of the energy you have to do the work you’re meant to do.

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7 Responses to “3 Damaging Effects of Non-Ideal Clients”

  1. Sharon says:

    Thanks for the great article, Fia-Lynn. Your article is right on time for me. Had an experience this morning that pushed a couple of buttons and started the doubting pattern. As soon as I realized what I was doing, I did some breathing and toning exercises and shifted right out of it. We do have many clients whose lives have been changed by our work. It helps to remember that too.

  2. Wow! What a wonderful article, Fia-Lynn!

    It sure made an impact on me. As I get closer to my dream of becoming a life-coach, I see the importance of attracting and maintaining relations with ideal clients, especially at the beginning of my career when my confidence is not so solid.

    To quote you: “and you need all of the energy you have to do the work you’re meant to do.” Giving myself permission to do what is right for me so that I can do what is right for my people is great advice.

    I love what you share, Fia-Lynn. Thanks for showing up for your people.

  3. Thank you so much for giving attention and a beautiful voice to this issue!
    I can relate to this damaging experience and I have grown from it immensely. I am just so grateful it was over quickly and that I have a supportive Coach and community to help lift me up again.

  4. This is perfect timing Fia-Lynn!!!!!!! I’ve had so much success doing energy work and when I come upon a non-ideal client, it seems it takes all my strength to have a session with them and then question if anything was accomplished or any shift took place in their beingness. Thank you for confirming that you don’t need to say yes to every client.

    Until Zen….. be well

  5. Karen Schatz says:

    Thankfully Fia-Lynn, you ARE my ideal client and I LOVE working with you 🙂

    I do know the feeling of working with a non-ideal client and you are right on the money with your 3 points. The knowledge that it’s okay that we’re not meant to work together is so liberating!

  6. Annette says:

    Excellent, timely and most helpful! Thank you very much for this, Fia-Lynn!
    I had one of those the other day, and spent (too much) time wondering if it was the timing, the setting, my approach, etc.
    None of the above! I thought about that session as I was reading your article and realized: I wouldn’t really like another session with that person. We are not a match, and that’s all it is.

  7. Kathryn says:

    This is actually great news, Fia-Lynn! It’s not just me, afterall! It’s the two of us – together – that doesn’t jell.

    I’ve heard it said that when it’s bad for one of you, it’s ACTUALLY bad for both of you… except that ONE of you prefers to play the victim (and refuses to tell the truth… that it is bad for you, too)! [In business, coaching, marriage… all of those relationships, and more!] LOL!

    I’ve found myself working with a man for a year and a half… because I paid HIM… and it’s just not an empowering place to be. I’ve been experiencing the 3 effects, myself, on the receiving end.

    Ok, I’m persistant, sometimes a good thing, but it’s time to cut my losses, I’d think!

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